There are many points which lead to this grace:
Wishing well for others at the cost of one's self;
Never backbiting;
Tolerance supreme;
Trying not to worry (which is almost impossible, but try anyway);
Thinking more of the good points in others and less of their bad points.
When Christ said, "Love your neighbor," he did not mean fall in love with your neighbor. If you do one of the above perfectly the rest must follow. Then grace descends. Have love; and when you have love, union with the Beloved is certain. When you love, you give. When you fall in love, you want. Love me in any way you like, but love me. It is all the same.
Love me. I am pure, the source of purity, so I consume all weaknesses in my fire of love.
Give your sins, weaknesses, virtues all to me — but give. I would not mind even one falling in love with me; I can purify. But when you fall in love with anybody else you cannot call it love.
Love is pure as God. It gives and never asks; that needs grace.
Yogis in the Himalayas, with their long eyelashes and beards meditating for years, sitting in samadhi, they have not this love. It is so precious. The mother dies for her child — a supreme sacrifice — yet it is not love. Heroes die for their country, but that is not love.
You can only know love when you have love. You cannot understand it theoretically, you have to experience it.
Majnun loved Laila. This was pure love, not physical, not intellectual, but spiritual love. He saw Laila in everything and everywhere. He never thought of eating, drinking, sleeping without thinking of her. All the time he wanted her happiness. He would have gladly seen her married to another if he knew that would make her happy.
At last, it led him to me. When you love there is no thought of self, but of the Beloved every second continually.
You would not be able to have this love even if you tried. It requires grace. But trying leads to grace.
What is God? Love. Infinite love.
Later that day, Baba called the group to meditate for fifteen minutes. He then sent them off to let them prepare their costumes for the costume party that evening before dinner. Norina and Elizabeth came dressed as Siamese twins — both wrapped in one sari.