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Kitty Davy

Kitty Davy

Katherine Laura Davy

English music teacher; supervised the women's ashram household and took Baba's explanations in shorthand

β€œSaroja (name given by Baba, meaning lotus)”

28 August 1891 – 3 December 1991
Kensington, London, England β†’ Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, USA

Biography

Katherine Laura Davy, known as Kitty, was born on 28 August 1891 in Kensington, London, the daughter of John and Helena Davy. She was working as a music teacher, giving piano lessons, when in 1931 her brother Herbert wrote to her about Meredith Starr's retreat at East Challacombe in Devonshire, where she also went and learned of Meher Baba. Herbert arranged for Baba to stay at their parents' home at 32 Russell Road, Kensington, on his first visit to the West. On 12 September 1931 Kitty was waiting for him at Victoria Station, and her own room was prepared for his use.

Kitty became one of the core group of Baba's early English disciples. In 1932, in Venice, Baba gave each of his Western lovers an Eastern name, and Kitty became Saroja, meaning lotus; Chanji wrote that Saroja's love was "ever selfless as it ought to be." She was among the first group of Western women to visit Baba in India, arriving in Bombay on 6 April 1933, and that summer she prepared and supervised the house at Portofino for Baba's stay in Italy. In December 1936 she sailed again to India with Margaret Craske and Delia DeLeon and stayed at Nasik, teaching piano and helping set music to Margaret's dances for Baba's planned film.

In late November 1937 Kitty began living at Meherabad with the Eastern women mandali. Baba gave her duties in the kitchen and asked her to teach English to Naja and Khorshed. Sitting for hours by a smoking kerosene stove learning to make chapatis, she once thought sadly that she had not come to India for this; that very evening Baba remarked, as if to her, that whatever work he asked was his work and that doing it according to his wish was the greatest penance. Kitty took his words to heart. She travelled on the Blue Bus tours of 1938 and 1939, gave typing lessons to Mani and Katie, and lived with the women through the war years in Bangalore, Meherabad and elsewhere. During the New Life, as ordered, she and Rano Gayley took jobs as schoolteachers in Bombay.

In 1952, during Baba's visit to America, he asked Kitty and Rano whether they would be willing to stay behind in Myrtle Beach and help Elizabeth Patterson. Kitty answered at once, "Why yes, of course, Baba," and when Elizabeth chose her, she parted from Baba after fifteen and a half years with him. From then on she lived and worked at the Meher Spiritual Center in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, where she welcomed Baba on his visits of 1956 and 1958. She attended the East-West Gathering at Guruprasad, Poona, in 1962.

Kitty wrote Love Alone Prevails: A Story of Life with Meher Baba (1981), an account of her fifty years following him; the Saroja Library at the Center is named for her. She died in Myrtle Beach on 3 December 1991, at the age of 100, and her ashes were interred near Meher Baba's Samadhi at Upper Meherabad.

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Life Timeline

1931

Learns of Meher Baba through Meredith Starr's retreat; on 12 September receives him in London and hosts him at the Davy home, 32 Russell Road, Kensington

1931

December: with Baba and the English group in Paris, photographed at the Eiffel Tower

1932

In Venice Baba gives her the Eastern name Saroja (lotus)

1933

6 April: arrives in Bombay with the first group of Western women to visit Baba in India; in summer prepares and supervises the house at Portofino

1937

End of June: goes ahead to Cannes and, with Delia DeLeon and Norina's sister Ghita, rents villas for Baba's stay

1937

Late November: begins living at Meherabad with the women mandali, working in the kitchen and teaching English

1938

Travels with Baba and the women on the Blue Bus tours (1938 to 1939)

1952

At Baba's request stays in Myrtle Beach to help Elizabeth Patterson run the Meher Spiritual Center, after fifteen and a half years with him

1956

Welcomes Baba to the Meher Spiritual Center, where she is living, during his second visit

1958

Helps host the Western Sahavas at the Meher Spiritual Center

1962

Attends the East-West Gathering at Guruprasad, Poona

1964

Visits the Meher Baba 'Universal Message' booth at the New York World's Fair

1981

Publishes Love Alone Prevails: A Story of Life with Meher Baba

1991

3 December: dies at the age of 100 in Myrtle Beach; her ashes are interred near Baba's Samadhi at Upper Meherabad

Quotes

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Which is greater, my love for you or your love for me?

β€” London, September 1931: Baba called Kitty back to his room and asked this on his alphabet board. She hesitated, then said his love for her was greater, and Baba smiled approvingly.

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You have stood the test well.

β€” Lugano, Switzerland, 1932, after Baba told the group he was testing each of them in turn for future work, watching how they took it when called upon by the Master to suffer.

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Love me and do as I say. Pure love makes one understand.

β€” 1933: Baba's answer when Kitty asked him, "How can we help you in your work?"

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You love me for love itself.

β€” Nasik, 1937: spelled out to Kitty on the verandah of the Sarzat bungalow, in the course of a conversation with the Western group.

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Tell Kitty she is wonderful in all ways, good and bad!

β€” Nasik, 1937: a message Baba left for Kitty when she was not present as he sat with the group in the garden.

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Since you are so fond of going to church, go every Sunday!

β€” 1938: said to Kitty after she and Rano had gone to church without Baba's permission.

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It is one thing to see the ocean and another to dip your feet in it! Anyway, go on taking darshan of those taking darshan!

β€” East-West Gathering, 1962: when the long darshan lines left no time for the Westerners, Kitty called out from the front row, "It is enough just to sit here and watch you."

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Why are you crying? It was a joke. Here [in Lugano], no sun is to be seen, the rain continues to fall and the weather on the whole is depressing. I don't like it, but Kitty's love has made me remain here. … But to let such 'arrows' fly is also part of my work, which is for your own good. By such taunts and prickings, I create more love within you, and you should not mind or feel pained by it.

β€” Lugano, Sunday, 1 May 1932. Kitty had worked from morning to night arranging the stay, yet Baba pointed to her and told the others that the New York group loved him more, because she had gone out for a walk the day before. When she burst into tears, he consoled her.

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Darling Saroja, … Your heart is so wonderful, always feeling so deeply and truly, and responsive to the call and understanding, but that peculiar mind of yours at times wobbles and tries to shake your faith, while your love revives it all again and afresh. One moment you feel quite prepared to do and withstand anything, the next moment you hesitate with if's and but's, and feel depressed and worried unnecessarily. But I will see that this eternal struggle between the head and the heart, for you as well as for all others who suffer from the same weakness, ends eventually in the victory of the heart over the head, and brings about a blending of the two.

β€” Letter of 26 November 1936 to Kitty (Saroja), who had written on behalf of the English group, worried that Baba would send them home soon after their arrival in India.

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To please others, you broke my order! But by your pleasing all, and displeasing me, you will gain nothing. Try only to please me, and in doing so, even if you displease the whole world, you will gain everything!

β€” Meherabad, 1938. In Panchgani, while Baba was away, Kitty had let some of the women have toast instead of the plain bread he had ordered. A month later at Meherabad he brought it up before everyone, and she threw her orange across the room in frustration.

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Your love for me, which is your life, speaks my message to all who come to my Center and makes me happy. Keep well and remember you are very dear to me Kitty.

β€” Telegram for Kitty's birthday, 27 August 1966. She was then living at the Meher Center in Myrtle Beach, and Baba never forgot to cable her on her birthday.

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Whatever work I ask you to do is my work, and she who does it according to my wish is performing the greatest penance! Compared to it, meditation, seclusion, fasts and austerities are nothing!

β€” Meherabad, end of 1937. Kitty spent hours by a smoking kerosene stove learning to make chapatis and thought sadly that she had not come to India for this. That evening Baba said this to the women, with Kitty in mind.

Notable Stories

Mending Baba's sadra

When Baba arrived at the Davys' house in September 1931, he changed out of his English travelling clothes into his white sadra. Kitty noticed a small hole in it and wanted to mend it, but was too shy to say so. Pointing to the tear, Baba told her, "My robe is torn, so you should sew it. You are lucky to have this opportunity to serve me. It is the beginning of further service you will have to do for me." Lord Meher describes this as Baba serving "food" to her: while she stitched, a boundless joy filled her heart.

Chapatis by the kerosene stove

At Meherabad in 1937 Baba put Kitty to work in the kitchen. Indian cooking was new to her, and she sat for hours by the smoking kerosene stove learning to make chapatis. One day she thought sadly, "I haven't come to India for this! I can do such work at home. I've come to be with Baba, but I hardly see him." That very evening Baba remarked to the women, as if for Kitty, "Whatever work I ask you to do is my work, and she who does it according to my wish is performing the greatest penance! Compared to it, meditation, seclusion, fasts and austerities are nothing!" Kitty took his words to heart.

"Why yes, of course, Baba"

In 1952, while recovering from his car accident at Youpon Dunes in Myrtle Beach, Baba asked Kitty and Rano whether they would be willing to stay behind and help Elizabeth Patterson rather than return with him to India. Kitty said without hesitation, "Why yes, of course, Baba." Baba asked Elizabeth which of them she would prefer, and she chose Kitty. So, after fifteen and a half years with her Beloved, Kitty parted from him in obedience and spent the rest of her long life at the Meher Spiritual Center.

"I will die, but die obeying!"

In the fierce heat of Lahore in 1943, almost everyone in Baba's party fell ill. Kitty was managing the kitchen and, by Baba's order, was not to waste anything. One day, with Baba's permission, bhujias were ordered from outside, and afterwards no one had any appetite for the food sent over as usual from the other bungalow. So Kitty sat down in the kitchen and began eating it all by herself. Mehera saw her and asked, "For heaven's sake Kitty, what are you doing? You will die." Kitty replied, "I will die, but die obeying!" When Mehera told Baba, he had a good laugh.

The forgotten passports

In Venice in October 1933, just as Baba's party was about to board a train, with half the luggage already loaded, Baba turned to Kitty and asked, "Do you have our passports?" She had handed them to the hotel clerk on arrival and, in the morning's hurry, had forgotten to collect them. Baba ordered the luggage unloaded. Kitty was distraught over her negligence, but Baba was as calm as ever: "Do not worry. We will have lunch and take a gondola ride on the canal. I can do more work here, and we can take the night train to Paris." Kitty thereby learned more about the Master's ever-constant vigilance.

Going to church

In 1938 Kitty went to church with Rano without asking Baba's permission. Not finding them, Baba sent Elizabeth out in her car to look for them, and the car got stuck in a muddy pothole. When they returned, Baba said to Kitty, "Since you are so fond of going to church, go every Sunday!" When she protested that she would never set foot in a church again, Baba insisted, "No, no, you must go every Sunday! Everything you need is there! You have nothing to gain by staying here and being with me." Then he asked, "Is it proper to go without my permission?" Crying, Kitty answered, "It was a mistake on my part. I'm sorry. Please forgive me." Baba pardoned her and gave her a kiss, taking away the pain of his scolding.

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Books & Publications

Love Alone Prevails: A Story of Life with Meher Baba

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Kitty's memoir of some fifty years following Meher Baba, from his first visit to London in 1931 through her life in the ashrams and at the Meher Spiritual Center

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